Wednesday, February 25, 2015

Divorce Advice: Key Conversations to Have Before You Head for Divorce

No one plans on getting divorced. We marry with the expectation that love will last, but sometimes it doesn't always work out that way. Work, kids, life—so many pressures intervene and alter our expectations of what a relationship should be and how our lives will unfold.

How to know if youre ready for divorce

Two key questions confront us as we contemplate divorce. First, is the relationship worth saving? And second, what will life after divorce be like? Choosing some trusted advisers—a "divorce team," if you will—can help you discover the answers to these and other important questions.  
Talk to a mental health therapist.  If your partner won’t go, go by yourself.  Most relationships end because of poor communication, and communication skills can be learned. A therapist can help you to identify the root causes of the dysfunction in your relationship and to decide whether the problems can be solved and how. 
Talk to a friend.  Our friends are our best resources for seeing our lives from a neutral perspective. Is your partner abusive? Do they have a substance abuse problem? Can you change the ways in which you respond to each other? Or is one or both of you unwilling or unable to change?
Talk to a lawyer. This can be a frightening prospect at first, but a divorce lawyer will talk through your situation and provide the information that is applicable to you and your circumstances. How will your property be divided? What are the likely support arrangements? Who will care for the children? How will the other parent be involved? What is the cost? What ways are available to pay for the divorce? Deciding on an attorney who can help you through the process is important. Our firm’s attorneys provide regular counsel to all types of families and situations. You can call your state bar association for a referral as well.
Talk to a financial planner.  Most families can’t really afford to divorce and maintain the same lifestyle afterward. It costs more to maintain two households. Your life after divorce is likely to be more financially constrained, at least initially. A financial planner can take the information you discover from talking to the divorce lawyer and help you understand how you will live on less. 
Talk to another lawyer. Estate planning is one of those life tasks that we put off too easily. Divorce is a key time to revisit our estate plans, and there’s no need to wait.  Sit down with an estate planning lawyer at the beginning so that you have a plan. Start changing beneficiary designations and the like when it makes sense to do so; don't wait for the entire divorce to unfold before making these changes. 
It is scary to confront the possibility of divorce, but the reality is a lot easier if you have proper support. Start working now on putting together your team. The worst thing that can happen is, you’ll never need them. But having your advisers assembled will help you make the big decisions that lie ahead. 

Contact a divorce attorney to learn more

If you would like to learn more about the divorce process, any one of our divorce attorneys can help. You can read more about them here. If you are ready to schedule an appointment with a family law lawyer in Oregon or Washington, please call 503-227-1515 for a Portland divorce attorney, or a Vancouver attorney at 360-823-0410

By Mark Johnson Roberts, Of Counsel

Monday, February 23, 2015

Albert Menashe comments on new Oregon Governor Kate Brown

Albert Menashe comments on new Oregon Governor Kate Brown.  KGW News Channel 8, February 15th, 2015.

Wednesday, February 11, 2015

Mark Johnson Roberts: An Oregon Trailblazer

Last Month, the Oregon State Bar unveiled its diversity storyboard exhibit; a wall-sized timeline that tracks 100 years of challenges and success for minority lawyers and judges in Oregon. As a follow-up to that event, the Oregonian featured our own Mark Johnson Roberts in a slideshow of “a few Oregon State Bar members who helped create a more diverse justice system by serving as pioneers in some way.” Mark’s piece recognizes that he was not only the first openly LGBT president of the Oregon State Bar when elected in 2006, but he became the first openly LGBT president of any state bar association in the country. An Oregon trailblazer? We certainly think so! To view the digital slideshow click HERE.

Read more about Mark HERE.

Monday, February 9, 2015

Saville W. Easley Joins the PLF Board of Directors

Congratulations to Saville W. Easley as a newly appointed board member for the Oregon State Bar Professional Liability Fund, effective January 1, 2015.   As an independently managed subdivision of the Oregon State Bar, the PLF is governed by a board of directors appointed by the OSB Board of Governors. The PLF first began operation on July 1, 1978, and has been the mandatory provider of primary malpractice coverage for Oregon lawyers since then. The PLF Board is comprised of nine members from across Oregon. Seven of their directors are Oregon attorneys and two are public members.   Saville was also recently elected as the chair of the Oregon State Bar Local Professional Responsibility Committee, and vice president of the Association of Family and Conciliation Courts, Oregon Chapter.  Saville also serves on the Multnomah County Bar Association Professionalism Committee. 

Saville Easley is a shareholder at Gevurtz Menashe and has been practicing law for 23 years.

Read more about Saville HERE.

Wednesday, February 4, 2015

Gevurtz Menashe Welcomes Family Law Attorney – James D. Lutes

Gevurtz Menashe is pleased to share the announcement and warm welcome of our new associate family law attorney, James D. Lutes. James received his bachelor of science degree in journalism from University of Oregon and his juris doctorate degree from Willamette University in 2013. Prior to joining Gevurtz Menashe, James practiced family law in Vancouver. James will continue his practice handling divorce, custody/parenting time, child support, contempt, and modifications for clients with legal matters in the state of Washington. When he’s not advocating for his clients, you will likely find James on the rugby field or at the horse races. In true Northwest fashion, he spends his fall and winter months cheering on the Oregon Ducks and Portland Trailblazers. James also has a passion for travel. If he could live anywhere in the world, he’d choose an adventure among the koalas and kangaroos in Sydney, Australia.

Read more about James HERE.  Link to OregonLive announcement HERE.